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16 Lessons We Could All Use Before Going on Our Next Date
There are lessons in everything, no matter how bad it is.
We’ve all had “that” relationship. Some may have experienced more abuse than others, but we’ve all had a relationship that makes us think, “WTF.”
The most critical part of bad relationships is what lesson you can take from it. The issue with the lesson is many automatically focus on what is wrong with their partner while not looking at what they need to work on.
It’s never easy to admit you need to work on things, and you two both play a part in the breakup. Your part could be you stayed and believed them after repeated lies and cheating, or you could have your own unhealed trauma you need to address before jumping into a new relationship.
It’s much easier to not work on anything and instantly start looking for the “new” partner. I see so many people relationship-hop or continue the same cycle of abuse, and they don’t understand why.
Here are 16 lessons I’ve learned from my three relationships over a span of the last 25 years.
- The person you love the most will inflict the most damage.
- Most of your shortcomings and problems in life are from poor choices.
- You aren’t looking for…
