8 Simple Task to Help With Ruminating Thoughts After Narcissists Abuse
Time is most important, but there are seven more that help get you to the peace you are desperately seeking.
3 min readJul 30, 2024
- Time: It will feel like death. The seconds, minutes, hours and days will drag. But time really does help, and one of the most important to understand. It is no possible to rush time, this is a point in life you will feel every second tick by, until you wake up one morning and realize it was the first stage needed in healing.
- List: Make a list, or at least a top 5 list of the most horrid shit they have done. I had over 30, and added to it weekly. 15–20 of them was mean shit you wouldn’t do to someone, not even your worst enemy. Make that list. Make copies. Keep it in your car, purse, bedroom, pant pocket, wherever easily accessible. And when the positive thoughts of this person enters your mind, and begins to entice you to contact them, pull that list out and read it. The feeling shall pass.
- Ruminating: Rumination will sink you just as quick as breaking no contact, and more times than not will lead you to reaching out. When you catch yourself thinking of the good times, get your list out and remind yourself of who they really are. After you read it, change your environment, walk, breath, push ups…
