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Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.

Spotting a Narcissist in the early stages is a game changer

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  1. I love you!: They will drop “I love you” quicker than they drop their pants in the bedroom. They will have you falling for them before you realize what hit you! …


It’s easy getting into a relationship. Maintaining one is another story

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It’s no secret relationships are tough, especially long term. Social Media and Dating Apps make it easy to bail on a relationship once it turns sour. …


Pay attention to actions, not words

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I firmly believe one can become bulletproof to the Narcissist’s allure if you know the red flags. …


The good, the bad, and the ugly

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When I was younger, I didn’t date. I would see all my friends in miserable relationships. They would have their ups and downs, but the bad definitely outweighed the good, in my opinion.

I was a shy kid and didn’t kiss a girl…


Physical attraction starts the ball rolling, but it’s a very small part long term

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Honesty: Someone that is brutally honest. Not someone that tells you what you want to hear. Even if it jeopardizes the relationship itself, honesty goes a long way.

Trust: There can’t be love with no trust…


One of the most challenging things to do in life

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  1. Respond vs. React: This is very hard but very rewarding. If a conversation or event triggers a reaction, stop! It’s the hardest thing to do, but pause and think where your reaction is coming from, then respond.
  2. Projection: If you can catch what flaws you project on to others, you…


Temporarily they do, or at the moment, but not long term

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If you understood a Narcissist’s mentality, you would answer this question.

How can they feel guilt for anyone when they are the biggest victim in the room?

Think about that.

They have such a fragile ego. The slightest form…


They don’t care, I’m serious

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Listen, what makes them nervous? Not you going no contact. I mean, at first, they might think, “WTF?” Where’d this asshole go? How dare he pull his shit again!

What makes them nervous?

  • Don’t speak the truth or any variant of it; they hate that…


At times it feels like nothing is ever enough

I started writing last year about this time on Quora. When I first found Quora, I posted questions like it was my job, which I got paid very well at but didn’t. …


It’s not comfort, and it’s not love. I have to remind myself every day

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Wait, is it her misery or mine? Actually, I think it’s a little of both. We feed off one another. Is that what Narcissists do? Maybe, in a sense. But not really.

The misery she is…

Chris Freyler

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