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Avoiding Relationship Burnout: Why Relationships Fizzle
Why isn’t your partner who you thought they were in the beginning?
They don’t become dull; they already were.
It’s generally your best foot forward when you first enter a new relationship. Everything is new, exciting, and full of surprises. You are both looking for that next “great escape!”
Congratulations! You two found one another!
As the honeymoon phase passes, your “best foot forward” fades, and you slowly become who you were before getting into that relationship. Are you bored? Maybe it’s you and not your partner.
Maybe you had expectations when they had no means of meeting them.
People get into relationships for all types of reasons, but generally for the wrong one. They think this person is the “fix” all. And they will even “settle” if they help them subconsciously avoid their own issues.
Many get in relationships wanting their best friend, best listener, best activity partner, etc, and one person can’t wear so many “hats,” so to speak. I know you think you can, but stop it. And I get there are some couples out there that support and love one another, but that’s a rarity.
