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Dating, Once You Heal From Narcissists Abuse, Might Surprise You
If you don’t break the trauma bond you will relive the hell with a more covert type of abuser.
Carl grew up in a environment not conducive with being happy. I mean, he could be, but he’d have to fake it.
His life consisted of pleasing his parents, trying to make bullies laugh, and eating absorbance amounts of food trying to escape the people pleasing, and laughter he thought was happiness.
While he was trying to make the bullies laugh, he was the one being laughed at. Carl knew it, but he kept trying, or lying is a better term.
As Carl worked his way through elementary school, then later the torments of high school, he began to develop.
He found the gym
This wasn’t until the tail end of his high school years.
It’s here he hit the weights hard, and walked on a Division 1 football team, and made it.
Carl was going to college, playing D-1 football, had women interested in him, and he still wasn’t happy.
What gives?
During college he went on spring break, and met a girl that would eventually become his wife. There is happiness in marriage…
