Do Narcissist love you?

I believe they do, but it’s not a love we can understand.

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They base their love on conditions.

They “mimic” what they think love to be. But as their six-year-old mentality has it, there are conditions attached.

They begin to see you aren’t the “perfect” person with who they fell in love. The whole “infatuation” phase is slowly subsiding.

Anyone, even a Narcissist, can be committed in the honeymoon phase of a relationship. They desperately throw “Love Bombing” at you to keep this “surreal” relationship going.

Once they feel the intensity wearing off, they panic and look for a new partner, with the new excitement and “buzz.”

They forever chase the “honeymoon phase.” Which unfortunately never last. But by that time, the partner is hooked.

So, the non-narcissistic partner is left chasing a partner that never existed. The Narcissist just mimicked what they believed love to be and got bored. And in return, blame the partner. The Narcissist will mirror all your good qualities on to you, while extracting every negative quality you have, to blame shift.

It is confusing but makes sense if you step back from the chaos.

I believe they confuse love with infatuation, and it is intense. But like every new “thing,” the newness and intensity wear off.

Narcissists don’t deal well with “normal.”

They are chips all-in, or are out looking for the next jackpot.

Forever chasing the next big score