Do You Feel Trapped in a Relationship And Fear Leaving?

Facing the fear head on will tell you a lot about yourself you don’t know.

Chris Freyler
2 min readApr 20, 2024
Photo by Imani Bahati on Unsplash

I finally realized my pain, and fear of leaving was nothing about missing this person.

I feared losing the “trauma” that brought this relationship together. The relationship with my ex was purely trauma based, that’s it. It was a direct reflection of my childhood, and a life time of conditioning.

It was a familiar misery I recreated without being aware I was doing it. It took me almost six years of back and forth banter in my mind to realize what was going on.

You shouldn’t fear leaving, you should fear staying.

Things get worse, and more difficult over time, beleive me, I know. But sometimes that’s the only way to have that “light bulb” moment.

You feeling “over-committed” in the relationship says all you need to know. That alone tells me you give, give and give and what you get in return doesn’t “feel” good, does it?

Leaving an abusive relationship is never easy. You are leaving what is “comfortable” and what you know, even if you can’t realize it yet.

There’s no word, quick fix, or article that will make leaving easier.

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Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.