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Does reading on narcissism daily block your path to recovery?

Chris Freyler
2 min readMay 18, 2021

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I believe so.

While in the beginning stages it is important to remind yourself of the abuse.Reading on manipulative people and talking about your “truth” frequently helps break the cognitive dissonance. Then the break to the trauma bond is soon to follow.

After a while, to keep researching, studying and writing about it becomes counter intuitive.

Once you know what you experienced, accept it. There is no need to keep “beating a dead horse.” I know, I’ve done/do it.

There comes a time in life where it becomes nothing more than a distraction/obsession. The mind and brain must begin to get back to some form of normalcy.

Truly moving on comes when you feel “indifferent.” No hate, no love for the person.

I also believe there is no time frame, and you shouldn’t rush it. You will know when it’s time to move on.

As for me, I rarely watch YouTube videos any more. I’m to the point I’m sick of writing about it and talking about it.

Whatever the hell is that happened, happened, lesson learned.

The obsession I once had with researching it and getting validation from others is slowly subsiding. I know what happened, I know she is abusive, no need to keep reminding myself of it every damn minute of the day.

I’m focusing more on my life, and not so much her. What caused me to stay with a person…

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Chris Freyler
Chris Freyler

Written by Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.

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