Does The Pain of Narcissists Abuse Every Go Away?

The pain from the actual abuse does, but the pain they brought to surface doesn’t.

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So many victims get hung up on the actual pain of the trauma bond, and cognitive dissonance. They have a hard time peeling that layer of pain back to really feel the sensitive shit.

I’m talking shit you keep buried so far down there are layers, and layers of residual pain most never get to. This is the pain from childhood, unhealed trauma, and all your ugly character defects only a relationship of this magnitude can show you.

The most difficult part is addressing the inner pain of your own shit no one really wants to look at. You slowly see the Narcissists was nothing more than a messenger to pain you didn’t know you had to heal.

It’s THAT pain that needs to be addressed.

Once you realize the abuse from the Narcissists was nothing more but a superficial wound that happened. It led you to heal the “real” pain. And when you “see” this is when your mind begins to shift.

Victims are doing nothing more than addressing the wrong pain, it’s why many stay stuck. It’s why their next relationship is just as fucked as the Narcissistic one, even-though there may have been no abuse.