Fact, or Fiction? Accepting Pain as Part of Life

Most don’t accept it, it’s why they do everything to avoid it.

Chris Freyler
3 min readApr 29, 2024
Photo by Hannah Tasker on Unsplash

If you really look at life, it’s not that painful. The pain comes with our decisions, choices, people we keep in our lives, our conditioned beliefs, and the fear of being ourselves.

But more importantly, the fear of being alone.

Being “alone” is when the pain really hits

Imagine sitting in a room with someone you never met, and that person being you. They scare you, no?

You’ve been painfully running from yourself for years, maybe decades, with no idea the pain all along had to do with you, not people, or situations.

We are raised from day one to be someone we aren’t, or learn not to accept the “someone” we are.

We are in full people pleasing mode the minute we are old enough to walk.

We never have a chance to develop into who “we” are, due to being who we think they want us to be.

How painful is that?

The pain follows us into adulthood

Then we are forced, in a sense, to cope being who we aren’t, by using relationships, substances, money, career and denial…

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Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.