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Gaslighting a Narcissists is as Simple as Doing This One Thing
In reality, it’s not gaslighting. You are doing once thing they can’t handle.
All you have to do is tell the truth to a lie they believe. Give them time to try and orchestrate a come back, don’t stop them, let them do it.
Then repeat the truth, or possibly add more truth you left out because we have…what do you call it? Empathy?
Then pour a little more gasoline onto the fire.
They will of course pull out the gardener hose in an attempt to put the fire out, but you let them spray.
They will again try to control, and manipulate “facts.” It’s here again, you speak the same truth, or add to it.
Guess what?
Here is where the gaslighting occurs.
At least in “their” mind.
I was told I was gaslighting my ex numerous times all because I spoke the truth, or asked her something that put her on the “spot.” As long as I was playing into her narrative that I was the crazy one and she was the “life coach:” all we well in relationship land.
Gaslighting develops new meaning with one of these people. If you speak any truth, you are “gaslighting” them
