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Having Trouble Breaking Trauma Bond? This Might be The Reason
Reasons aren’t always meant to be understood.
That’s the thing with trauma bond. It didn’t start, nor will it end, with the current abuser. Unless it’s the person who first abused you in life that created the trauma bond to begin with. Which most likely will never be the case. A 3–6 year old child doesn’t know what trauma bond is, so how will they heal it? That’s about the age your first trauma bond formed.
Whether it be a narcissists, or just a very abusive relationship you are trauma bonded to, the bond started long before you met this current person. It’s possible, if you look at past relationships the same pattern was going on, just under a different guise. But this take a lot of self awareness. Something many don’t possess.
Psychology, overthinking, chasing, hoping, begging and praying has all but ran its course in my life.
Your life is nothing but blocks of “time.” And the longer you spend time in the wrong blocks, is when you could possibly be fucked. There are so many pieces to the puzzle in life most never get to experience. They just can’t see it, nor do they want to.
And unfortunately, or fortunately, many have no idea they are working on a puzzle. They just leave it a mess on the table. And if…
