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Healthy Relationships Share These 5 Traits
How many do you and your partner have?
After three failed relationships, I started looking at the similarities all three possessed. Everything I want in a relationship they lacked, or it was faked.
Subconsciously I knew what I wanted, and I tried to mold these girls into my ideal partner, which didn’t and will never work. People’s true colors come to the surface around the 3-month mark, maybe sooner. Their guards begin to come down at the very minimum, and you start to see the person’s real personality and morals.
I’ve learned it takes a while to get to know someone. And if you throw sex in too early, that can lead you right down the rabbit hole into toxicity. Once there, you will play a hell of a time trying to relocate your emotions because if you fall for a manipulator, for lack of a better word, you’re fucked.
So from here on out, I am taking my time with anyone I date. I want to get to know them on a mental level first. I want a lot of communication and, of course, time spent with this person. If you are aware, you will be able to pick up on toxic traits, in my opinion.
Below are five qualities I look for in a partner. I honestly believe if both partners possess at least 3 of the 5, your relationship has a chance to go long term and be an incredible bond for years…
