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How Basing a Narcissistic Relationship on Potential is a Losing Game
There’s a big difference between potential and action. And action is what most people have a problem with.
I think it’s human nature to want to believe the best in most people we meet. Especially a loved one or a partner we have invested a lot of time and love into. The only problem with this is when you base a relationship on potential, you most likely are setting yourself up for heartbreak.
The relationship doesn’t have to be Narcissistic; it can just be dysfunctional and toxic. Maybe the person struggles with an addiction or some other mental disorder? They promise they are changing or have changed if you guys haven taken a short break in the relationship. And then decide to reconnect and give it another go.
The sure tell sign to know if someone is toxic is to watch their actions and not words. For years I listened to words with my Ex. She promised me so much but delivered nothing but more emotional abuse. I sat around for years basing the relationship on “if’.”
If, she would choose me and make me a priority.
If, she would quit talking to all the other guys.
If, she would just tell me the truth.
If…
