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How Being Vulnerable and Honest Can be Someone’s Life Raft
Just make sure you don’t stab holes in it as you throw it to them.
I’ve been on this vulnerable and honest kick lately. And let me tell you, it’s not helping me. I love to flip and flop how I live my life week to week. Does anyone else do the same? One week you are great and staying the path and the next you are so far lost you have no way to find your way back.
It might be keeping me stuck. I love to tell my girlfriend how to live. I love to beat her down for past mistakes, er…..choices. She calls them mistakes; I call them choices. She made a valid point. Sometimes people have to repeat mistakes to learn the lesson. But what if that lesson involves hurting others and not just yourself?
I make a lot of repeated mistakes that hurt me, not her. I also make many choices that hurt her, but they aren’t conscious, well, kinda. They are usually influenced by several beverages that seem to keep us bonded, alcohol.
She will say no, I will say yes. It’s one of many punctured rafts I throw her from time to time. Alcohol makes it easier for me to talk about my feelings, as it helps her lock her’s away. It makes the most perfect dysfunctional raft that stays afloat through most storms.
