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How Blaming Yourself For Narcissistic Abuse Will Keep You In The Chaos
Your part of the abuse is you stay. The abuse can’t continue if you aren’t around.
You just left for the 5th time. It felt good to be done with that manipulative asshole, finally! You are finished dealing with their bullshit. You finally blocked them everywhere! And this time, you are telling yourself it’s the final time, right?
Unfortunately, two to three days pass, and you start obsessing about the last argument. And all the arguments before this one too.
Maybe they are right? Perhaps you did overreact? Maybe the person they were talking to was just a friend?
no, No, NO! I know they were cheating; they’ve done it before! They are so good at redirecting my thoughts so I forget the issues I was addressing!
Man, I really did lose my shit. Maybe I was too hard on them? Perhaps I should just send them a simple email explaining my side one more time and then be done. Yes, I think I will do that, because it will make me feel better, and then I will be done finally.
Does the above scenario sound familiar? Have you been the subject to an arsenal of projection and gaslighting you question whether you are abusive?
