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How Can You Find Someone Worth Dating Who Hasn’t Sworn It Off?
And if you find them, are they worth it?
I look at myself as a decent catch, maybe. I don’t have all my shit together, but I do know what “shit” I am working on getting together.
I am just now beginning to unravel my childhood trauma and the trauma bond of a toxic four-year relationship. I am on the tail end of it, but still a little difficult. I’ve also recently given up drinking.
Was I an alcoholic? I’m not too fond of the label. I know I would drink for the wrong reasons, and when I drank, I drank way too much. It negatively affected my life and wasn’t helping me accomplish goals that I kept setting and failing at miserably. I could binge drink with the best of them.
One thing I have going for me is self-awareness, and I am open to constructive criticism. I’m getting better at communication and not taking things personally, and I am a caring, thoughtful guy. Am I perfect? Hell no, but I am open to all suggestions on how to be a better me. And I welcome a girl in my life that can help me achieve that goal. As well as her being open to self-growth too.
Do they exist? I’m not sure. I’d say there are a few out there, but you won’t find them on a dating app or in a bar.
