How Do You Be You When You Want To Be Someone Else?

You become that someone else.

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Since a little boy, I’ve been on the hunt for money. If it wasn’t money, it was approval and acceptance from others. The only problem in seeking those three things is they won’t bring Joy long term but will give you the illusion of Joy with the temporary Happiness.

So often, Joy and Happiness are confused. I believe Joy comes from the inner-self, it is internal, and Happiness can come from outside sources. That’s why I think some chase relationships; they are happy initially, but as time passes and personalities begin to clash, the Happiness fades. You end up thinking, what am I doing? This person has very little interest in how I live my life. The commonalities you thought you had don’t exist.

I believe if people have true Joy before pursuing a relationship, the chances of finding a compatible partner significantly increase. Once you come at peace with who you are, where you are, and how you are, you will experience true Joy. In doing so will bring the right people into your life, and not just in a romantic sense.

That’s the problem; I have always chased Happiness within people, places, things, thoughts, and events. All of those things proved to be temporary. That cycle left me in a never-ending chase of Happiness. But the problem…