In reality, it’s simple. But easier said than done, we’ve all been there. It’s especially painful if trauma bond is in play.
Do these 3 things, and believe them, and you will get there quicker than expected.
1. List: Make that list of every betrayal, lie, manipulation, deceit, the times they chose others over you, their selfishness, the disrespect, EVERYTHING. Make the list. Then, take the top 5 and make copies. Keep them readily available. And every time a “good memory” pops up, read that damn list. Remind yourself of who they are.
2. You: Now make a list of every positive quality you have. Every time you dropped everything to be by their side, how committed you were, the support you offered, all the chances you gave, all your qualities that others would love to have in a partner! Write them all out. Believe them! Remind yourself often. Keep working on you.
3. Time: You know in time you will be better off, but they will still be the miserable, manipulating cheat they are.
Believe you deserve better, and “better” will find you. It’s your truth, not theirs.