How do you know what real love is?

I’m struggling with this as I write.

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What is real love? I think I know what love isn’t. But can true love be confused with toxic bond? I have no idea, and that is what I am trying to discover.

I do believe, you can find the right person at the wrong time. And that wrong time, can signify everything a toxic relationship is. And that in itself can be confusing.

All my writings come from one very painful relationship. I love her more than words can describe. Is it toxic love? Is it Narcissism? Is it Codependency? I have no fucking clue. I know it can be many labels. Is love a label? Probably. But I know the connection we have is well beyond our own toxic traits we dish out to one another. We don’t set out to hurt one another, it happens in our quest for happiness, or what we believe is happiness.

Two toxic people can come together and learn very special toxic lessons. They have to both be aware and check the ego at the door. Constructive criticism is your friend in a situation like this, if you allow it. You must trust your partner, hear them out, and BELIEVE they have the best intentions for both of you. Constructive criticism can be VERY painful.

I used to believe love doesn’t hurt, but it can hurt if the two people that are doing the love are learning. Lessons can be painful, very painful.