How do You Successfully Date a Narcissist?

Chris Freyler
3 min readAug 7, 2021

Are you ready for this?

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I’ve dated 3 girls my whole life, and each displayed Narcissistic Traits. If anything, bare minimum, some form of Cluster B Personality Disorder. The unhealthy addictive bond that is created to these types of people is indescribable.

I tried everything humanly possible, other than going under hypnosis to block all my emotions and feelings. It is a very painful experience and anyone that has gone through it will understand.

I would lay awake at night ruminating, replaying every scenario. I had so many “Only If’s” it was exhausting. The only question left was, “why am I doing this to myself?”

The person doesn’t have to be diagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Narcissist “traits” alone can ruin you and the relationship. But, if you must, here are 10 tips on how you can sacrifice yourself for the almighty manipulation you subconsciously yearn for.

1. Boundaries: Don’t have any. Allow them to do as they like and STFU. Let’s admit, you had pretty weak boundaries before meeting them.

2. Cheating: Don’t ask questions. Just accept it. Let them accuse you of their exact actions. The cheating NEVER happened, just believe it.

3. Fault: That’s right, not theirs, but yours. Yep, your fault. Make it easy, and every issue that arises, accept the blame. Make it easy

4. Delusion: Support it or accept it, right? Or you could leave. And some of it will be cringe worthy. You will grit your teeth as you nod in approval of their delusion. No one knows the monster up front and as personal as you.

5. Drinking: Bottoms up bitch! Yep, drink with them, or look to be replaced with someone that will. Maybe you already struggle a little with drinking, right? Intensify that shit by 100, because this is your life now. As you try and keep up, you will try to drink away your emotions to what fuck is going on.

6. Self-Awareness: Nope, don’t have any. Don’t question anything other than your sanity! And the minute you question that, it’s too late! You will be left with nothing but a shell of yourself. You will question if what is happening is really happening. And you will question, “Why the hell you are putting up with it?!”



Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.