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How Does a Lonely Person Behave Compared to a Person Who Chooses to be Alone?
Learning to be comfortable alone is imperative to self-growth.
They wake up in the morning with no expectations. But it’s not the type of loneliness you are most likely referencing.
They have a life of purpose, probably, just out of an abusive relationship. They feel alone, but they aren’t lonely like most. Their purpose might be lost in the chaotic environment they are working their way out of, but it’s there.
They go to work, do their exercise, make themselves a healthy meal at the end of a hectic day. They use the time alone to take a personal inventory of the days events and interactions with others.
There is no worse feeling of loneliness than to keep toxic, mean people in your life. If the person is the “lonely” you are speaking of, they will keep a seriously abusive asshole in their life. It is more comfortable keeping the abuse around than to sit alone with your their own demons.
They generally surround themselves with toxic people.
When this happens, they maybe begin to adopt abusive traits. They get sucked into the toxicity of not wanting to be alone when “being” alone is one of the healthiest things they can do in life.
