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How Ignoring Your Issues and Focusing on Your Partners Will Never Work
There is a fine line between support and control.
Jesus Christ, she’s drinking again! Why can’t she just sit with herself and feel her feelings? Why does she always have to run to the bottle to escape herself?
If she would just allow me to help her! Why won’t she allow me to help her? I know I can help and support her if she allows me.
At least I believe I can, but can I?
It’s no secret my ex and I have been off and on more than the porch light at your house. One minute we are shining bright, and the next moment there is complete darkness; it can be scary. Just like any relationship, there will be good and bad times, but why do most couples stay stuck in a vicious cycle of the bad? Why do they ignore everything going on in life and decide to settle?
I have a theory on that, and I will try and explain.
There are many times through our 4-year relationship I should have left it up to my girlfriend to operate her own light “switch.” I was in constant fix mode; I wanted control of her switch while ignoring mine.
It was no secret she has demons she is battling, but newsflash, so am I! I love to ignore mine and focus on her. I love to watch her…
