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How Long Does it Take Before Dating After Narcissistic Abuse?
It takes time; trust is the main issue.
I’ve tried. It’s not easy. I wish I were the Narcissist my ex says I am. But dating really doesn’t appeal to me at all. I’m not sure what “it” was I dated, but it wasn’t normal. I’m a far cry from where I was, but I still struggle.
Once you date a manipulative person and become aware that you were nothing to them, I mean, you were, but You were a number is all you were.
Everything they told you, they had said to millions of others. You weren’t as unique as they made you feel. That connection you thought you had with them didn’t exist.
You will try to date and feel that “supposed” connection you had with them but nothing will compare. The most fucked up part is when the pieces start to come together, but it takes time.
You will see the missing pieces you missed a while back because you were in denial of what was happening.
The times they came back didn’t mean shit to them but gave you a world of hope. You hung on to the potential of someone with no potential. Their sheer meanness can’t be explained by how they play people.
