I had both. My ex wife and I grew apart. Spent 20 years together, more than half our life. I haven’t spoken to her in 2 years.

A best friend decided lying to me was more important than helping me see an ex for who she was. He decide to cover his fling with her and watch me in misery and he and her kept it under wrap.

That one hurt, I knew him since I was 12 years old. Over 30 years. We went through a lot together. In reality he never was a friend, I sensed it but ignored my intuition like I do often in my life