I think this is a huge misconception. I wouldn’t want them to understand it. It’s impossible to explain the intensity of emotions. A normal, healthy regulated kind can imagine the turmoil and anxiety that goes on in the BPD mind.

Support is the best thing to do.

Recognize triggers and focus on making the BpD feel safe, all while holding strict boundaries. You let the BPD know you are on their side with support, but you won’t put up with mind games and abuse.

You are both working on individual stuff while blending it into a partnership with respect and loyalty.

In the grand scheme of things relationships don’t seem “that” difficult. But they can be damn near impossible with the wrong person. And by wrong I mean am unaware asshole or someone with an untreated mental illness. Which I think makes up the majority of the dating pool.

Hang in there