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If a Narcissist Believes You’re a Horrible Person, Why do They Hoover?
The Narcissist believes many things, but they don’t think you’re a terrible person.
The Narcissist doesn’t think anyone is a bad person but themselves. What they do is project all their destructive behaviors and traits onto you.
They Hoover because you have something they want. And they love the way you make them feel. They don’t love you as the kind and caring person you are. It’s obvious, right? Kinda.
They fall in love with you because of the image you make them appear to be, which they aren’t and never will be. As long as you play the lead role in their delusion, you are welcome to keep the attention-paying part.
Does that make sense?
They crave the qualities you possess, but they live a second identity through you. That’s why they mirror your kind, caring, and generous traits initially. But after a while, they can’t keep the act up anymore, and they cave.
You upset them, said something that pissed them off, or in other words, you showed them you are human. That’s a big no-no In the “narcissist world.”
Once you show them the quality, they can’t stand in themselves, POOF! They are gone.
But don’t let your sweet little ass worry. Sooner or later, the “new” toy loses its shine, and they will come sniffing around. That’s why they sought you to begin with; doesn’t that make you feel special?
They hope you can supply them with a little more juice from your beat-down soul.
They are desperate is why they Hoover.
How does that make you feel?
That’s what you need to ask yourself.
