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If a Person Doesn’t Love You, It’s OK to Let Them go
It could be the best thing you could do for yourself.
Some where in life between birth, and your current age, you were taught you had to prove your worth to others. That being just “you” wasn’t going to cut it, and never would. You were taught to try and walk a flawless line of perfection, but always came up short. You would cope by trying to be the “funny” kid in the room. If you make people laugh that means they like you, or are less likely to get upset with you.
Most my relationships end how they began, “with a whirlwind of intensity” that could wake the dead in a cemetery with the emotions they evoke. It’s here you finally realize “waking the dead” is never a good idea, nor should it be a priority of yours while entertaining a relationship.
As time goes on you tell yourself, “this one will be different.” You are entering the relationship with a whole new bag of tools to help guide you to success, understanding and communication. That’s until those tools are called upon, and you spend the majority of time searching for the “right” tool, only to come up empty handed, or trying to use one that didn’t work in the past.
