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If You Don’t Heal After Narcissistic Abuse You Can Attract a More Covert Type of Abuser
There is more to healing than going no contact.
The simple answer is to be alone for a while.
The fear of being alone after such an intense Narcissistic relationship seems unbearable. Your brain has been rewired with all the love bombing and attention they showered you with initially. In the end, they pushed and pulled their way with your emotions to lead you on a path to hell and self-destruction.
A life without this person seems unimaginable.
You will believe your own delusional thoughts that the person they showed you initially still exists. You will wait patiently like a dog does a treat. You stay with excitement and anxiety for the owner to give you just a taste if you are a good boy or girl. In the end, the treats are offered less and less, but more withdrawal, gaslighting, projection and manipulation are thrown at you by the handful.
You begin to bargain with your own thoughts. “You can help this person if you just let them!” You know the fun-loving person that is behind all the abuse! You are met with more deceit and heartbreak with each promise of change. You don’t know how much more you can take, but you can’t break free from…
