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If You Fully Healed Your Narcissistic Abuse, How Would Life be Different?
I’d have firm boundaries in future relationships, to begin with
I’ve thought about this a lot. I know for certain it is a slow process, and we each have a path that does and doesn’t work for us. Sometimes it’s a lot of trial and error in various ways before we see results. And many times, it will feel like there is no ending to the cycle of madness. One day or week, we think we are making progress only to be yanked back down into the depths of hell with rumination or reaching out. It seems to come in waves.
Here is a list I’ve put together of ways I think my life would be different. I’m no longer rushing the process, but I am making a conscious effort to not live in the abuse, push into the healing phase, and take the no contact seriously. I’m fortunate enough not to have kids or marriage with her.
- I wouldn’t love her, hate her, or care about her. I’d be indifferent.
- My overthinking and rumination would come to an abrupt halt. I will own my reality and no longer question if hers is valid.
- I’d accept the person I thought I loved never existed. Knowing she portrays this image with everyone, not just me.
- I’d accept that I was nothing more than a mere object to her, not even a person.
