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If You Want to Break “No Contact,” go Ahead And do it!
Many won’t agree, but sometimes it’s the only way to freedom.
I’m gonna play the devils advocate.
Sometimes we have to do what we think isn’t good for us. And in doing what we think isn’t good could be our one way ticket out of the hell we have been living for years, maybe decades.
Just go ahead and get it out of your system
It’s like having a virus, and trying to hold back the shits, or puking. You know you have to get it out of your system, but the feeling is unpleasant. But afterwards you feel fantastic! It’s the same with any difficult or unpleasant thing in life. Sometimes the most painful shit will lead you to a stronger version of yourself.
I know you hear of all the people saying they went no contact the first time, and they are on the way to a life of freedom! Bullshit. If they were trauma bonded it’s not so fucking easy. Very few give one shake of the stick so to speak the first time and break free. It doesn’t work like that, although sometimes it can I imagine.
Sometimes we have to endure just enough pain before it sends us over the edge, or on the next bus to the funny farm. Hard to accept, I know, but that’s life.
