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In What Way Does Dating a Covert Narcissist Change You?
Well, I will tell ya what. You won’t like my answer.
My opinion won’t be a popular one, but it doesn’t change in you what wasn’t already there.
They are a blessing and a curse.
If you want an in-your-face, look at every character defect you have, then date one of them.
After the dust settles from the complete mind-fuck you endured, there will be bits and pieces left of you unexplored. And only you are the one who can uncover it.
I don’t think it would have been possible for me to learn what I learned from my ex in therapy. I wasn’t open enough with myself. I was in denial, just as she was. I needed some hard, raw in your face shit in order to make me take a look at myself.
But she cracked my code of denial on the most unlevel of playing fields. I broke it and left the pieces lying on the floor.
If you don’t learn much about yourself by dating one, you are going about it all wrong; at least, that’s my opinion.
They give you the tools to create a version of yourself that you didn’t know existed. The only problem with that is you need to get out of your own way to see it.
