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Is a Relationship Boring After You Have Fallen in Love?
It depends who the partner is you think you fell in love with
Is the love “real” on both ends? There lies the problem.
Many get in relationships for anything but love, but in their reality, it is love. If you are dating a toxic person, it sure as shit will get boring. They will engulf you with all the adoration and attention initially, and once you are hooked, they pull back.
Be very cautious of relationships that start out “over-the-top” with love and attention.
Once you fall in love, it can go one of two ways.
- Real connection: This is what many look for. That person who understands you loves your quirks, never intentionally hurts you, never betrays you, is trustworthy, has your best interest, and helps you better yourself, but doesn’t complete you. All while you reciprocate. A dream partner, right? I’ve heard they are out there.
- Dysfunctional connection: I honestly believe more find this route. They fall for someone that never had their partner’s best interest unless it somehow benefited them. They are excellent at manipulation. You learn soon after you “fall in love” with this person, the love was built on lies, not love and trust. This person will have told you everything that was needed to “hook” you only to give you a hefty dose of “I don’t give a shit about you, or your feelings!” The only thing that matters is their own selfish fucked up needs.
It will become very boring for the one in the relationship that is the selfish asshole, yea, very boring. They live their life running on drama and leaving a path of destruction at every turn, all while playing the victim doing so.
Nothing boring about it.
