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Is it Ever a Good Idea to Stay With a Cheater?
It depends on who you ask.
When you’ve given up on yourself and think you deserve to be treated exactly how you feel about yourself, like shit.
In my experience and opinion, cheaters don’t change. Especially if they have a history of it; that’s why it’s in your best interest to really get to know someone before a committed relationship.
I’ve read and heard don’t ask about past partners bullshit. The biggest predictor of future behavior is past behavior, especially if you are older and dabbling in dating.
Look for discrepancies in their stories and look out for the ones that act as if they are the saint, and they always “pick” the wrong ones.
The older we get, the more we get stuck or stay stuck in dysfunctional patterns. Doing so makes it harder to make drastic changes in life.
It’s never ok or a good idea to stay with a cheater.
The moment they broke that trust and betrayed you shows exactly what they think about you, but more importantly, what they feel about themselves.
It’s your job to believe you deserve better. It doesn’t matter what they say about changing and how sorry they are.
They should have thought about that before spreading their legs.
