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Is it Ever The Victim’s Fault For Narcissist’s Abuse?
Some call it victim shaming. I call it victim accountability.
I’m gonna play the devil’s advocate here. I’ve been accused of victim shaming in the past, but it’s anything but that if you step back and look at the relationship.
Yes, abuse can be subtle, and if the abuser is experienced, it can be about as covert as you can get. And before you know it, you are neck deep in a volatile sea, gasping for what little air you can get.
It may take you years to finally accept that your relationship is abusive, or better yet, the person you thought you loved doesn’t exist. After that, it gets confusing as fuck.
The most horrific part of an abusive relationship comes to the surface once you realize you are being abused.
The trauma bond and cognitive dissonance are the most confusing part. So many have no idea what those terms mean. They just know they can’t break free from this cock sucker no matter how abusive they are.
Is it your fault you are trauma bonded to a dick head and have no idea what is happening? No, it’s not.
But you have to own your part in the madness. You staying, knowing something is off, is your part. But the mind can be a manipulative little bitch at…
