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It’s Not Love You Feel, It’s an Addiction
I’ve been addicted four times.
What most get wrong with love, is it develops over time. I’m not one to believe in love at first sight, not saying it hasn’t happened, just saying I don’t buy it.
There is “lust” at first sight, or some similarity to a person you feel connected with due to past trauma, but it’s not love. Love is the exact opposite of what Hollywood wants you to believe. Love isn’t always pretty, it can be ugly and difficult at times, but not abusive.
I’m batting a 1000%
All my relationships start like they end, in a whirlwind of emotions that shake the room. That eventually ends with therapy, and a hazmat crew. Once the word relationship rolls off their tongue it’s a free pass to bombard you will compliments, intense attention, and a feeling of euphoria you know isn’t healthy, but let’s not bullshit ourselves, neither are you. But it feels good, right?
They say jump, you say how high. You spend the relationship jumping in circles, regularly looking back to make sure you are jumping high enough. If they give you the thumbs up, you continue to jump. Do you look stupid? Fuck yea, you do. Look at yourself. There isn’t anything this person could say, or do to make you stop jumping as you seek to get that approval.
