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One Simple Reason You Might Believe Your Boundaries are Controlling
Welcome to my world. The world of keeping peace with everyone.
Boundaries are, in a sense, a “Catch 22.” No matter what boundary you set, you are going to upset someone.
And if you are codependent like me and have struggled with CPTSD from childhood shit, that’s the last thing you want to do!
So, what do we do? We are used and used again as people’s doormats. We are good at setting boundaries, but we aren’t good at holding to them. There could be a variety of reasons as to why you aren’t sticking to them. But I think the main reason is the fear of losing someone or upsetting them.
No one will believe you anymore after you repeatedly go against your boundary.
Having weak boundaries with someone who abuses you is setting yourself up for a lifetime of misery if you don’t learn to enforce that boundary.
I struggle deeply with enforcing boundaries I “imaginarily” set the boundary in my mind. Hell, I’ll even say them out loud, and if I don’t go against it, I will soon enough as I’m poked and prodded out of my comfort zone.
