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One Simple Way to Avoid Becoming Trauma Bonded
It starts with that nasty word that starts with a “B.”
That’s it. The buck stops right there if you have strong, and effective boundaries.
There is no 3rd, 4th or 100th chance with boundaries. The “chances” are what get you bonded. The more sorry you feel and try and “see” their side is nothing but the devil waiting around the corner.
When someone mentally, or physically abuses you, and you try to “understand” their trauma, and where it’s coming from, you are in deep shit already.
Codependents have a great chance of getting trauma bonded than anyone else
When you want to see the “best” in people, and can’t really see how vile, sick and abusive people can be, you are a top candidate for trauma bonding.
To avoid trauma bonding use the three strike rule I “NEVER” used.
When they do something that hurts you once, and you make it known, and tell them, and they say they won’t do it again. They’re sorry. STRIKE ONE.
The second time it happens, maybe they are just a slow learner. It’s here you really start paying attention to see if this person has a motive, agenda, or their just a plain asshole. You remind them…
