One Unpopular Opinion on How to Heal From Narcissist Abuse

And it has nothing to do with going no contact.

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I know they keep promising change, but the change they promise is never delivered. You are the “one” again; they finally see it. You might have actually given up on the “title” Narcissism. Maybe you are considering other titles such as “Psychopath or perhaps Borderline Personality Disorder.” But you know something is off, and you can’t bring yourself to leave them, right?

Take a temporary break

That’s right, a break, leave, get some space. Don’t go no contact. Get enough distance from them and their drama to clear your mind. Be prepared. They might give you the silent treatment, but the silent treatment is your friend.

While they are “playing 6-year-old,” you be playing self-awareness mode. You and I both know if you apologize, take the majority of the blame, and chase like hell, they will reappear. Don’t worry; they aren’t going anywhere.

Your main goal is to get some space and clear your mind as much as you can. I know the cognitive dissonance will still be strong as hell, and you will want to remember all the good. But there will come the point when any good is hard to remember. And you may have to leave multiple times, and hell, they might even…