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Painfully Beautiful; When a Borderline Meets a Narcissists

It’s a match made in hell, and that’s putting it mildly.

2 min readJun 28, 2025
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If you genuinely care for a person with Borderline Personality Disorder(BPD) they won’t believe you, they might even test you. The relationship will lack the intensity, and drama they have grown accustomed to with all relationships in life. It’s why their bond with a narcissist is so strong.

The narcissists dishes out what the BPD craves, and the BPD gives the unconditional attention, and approval the narcissist craves, until they don’t.

When the BPD and Narcissistic relationship hits its breaking point is when you will see the consequences on a crime documentary like A&E, or 48 hours. Think Gabby Petito, and Brian’s case.

Unless the BPD is aware, they have no chance in any relationship, but albeit, they have a “chance,” unlike the Narcissists. While a BPD can destroy anything, and anyone in their path, including narcissists, psychopaths and even sociopaths, they do have feelings. They have the guilt, shame and remorse that comes after their emotional melt downs.

It’s what makes them an easy target for the Narcissists. They will put up with just about anything, until they don’t.

Chris Freyler
Chris Freyler

Written by Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you.