Seeking Revenge Against a Narcissists is Temporary Relief

You want them to suffer just like you, but does it actually work?

Chris Freyler
2 min readJun 4


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It’s not about beating and hurting them. If you are the average person with empathy, it will do nothing but backfire on you.

A Narcissist can do some very mean and hurtful things. The main issue many don’t think about is many stay with them long after they experienced the first sign of abuse. Second chances are normal in relationships. Partners can fuck up and unintentionally hurt one another. But repeatedly repeating behaviors known to harm one another is a different story.

Almost all narcissists are unaware of their actions. It’s how they live and survive, and to expect different from one is more delusional than the life they live. Your best bet is to suck it up as an experience and leave. Work on your own issues and let them do what they do.

Leaving and working on yourself is a healthy form of revenge you can do, and with it comes, no guilt. But what you get is a better understanding of yourself and those who are disordered.

You have a chance to start over. You are now armed with the proper awareness to not repeat a relationship of this magnitude. What does the Narcissist have? Another attempt to hurt someone else and project all their shame and self-hatred onto the new partner.

It is pointless as they hurt enough. They don’t need anyone piling on. They do a fine job of that themselves.

Get out there and create a life you want to live, and don’t put effort into hurting someone. I know; I’ve attempted what this question asked. And you know what? It didn’t do anything but make me feel worse about myself. It didn’t make me feel any better.

And if you’re normal human being, I imagine you’d experience the same guilt I did. It’s not a way to live a life.

Remember that.



Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.