The Confusion Starts When The Narcissists Tells The “Truth”

Chris Freyler
3 min readNov 10, 2023
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You just caught them lying again, well, you “think” you did. But wait! They are actually telling the truth this time. I mean, what the fuck?! Is it possible they are changing? Is it possible they really do love you and there might be a chance to salvage this relationship?

Not so fast

When the Narcissists tells the truth it is a form of subliminal gaslighting. When they tell the truth it does nothing but strengthen the trauma bond with an already healthy dose of cognitive dissonance.

A narcissists doesn’t always lie, but this is where it gets tricky. This is where they will use the truth against you to completely mind fuck you.

I had it happen to me many times. The times I was sure she was lying, she wasn’t, and the times I gave her the benefit of the doubt, she was. It keeps the victim in a constant state of limbo of not knowing what to believe, but better yet, keeps you second guessing yourself.

When the Narcissists tells the truth they will make it be known they do.

“See, I told you I am trying! Why don’t you ever believe me!?!”

“I am so sick of you. You are so controlling and insecure!”

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Chris Freyler
Chris Freyler

Written by Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.