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The Consequences of Enabling a Victim of Narcissists Abuse
When you think you are helping them you are actually doing the complete opposite.
I have written on the topic of Narcissist abuse for the better part of 3 years now. When I first started writing, there was no bigger victim in the room than me. And to make matters worse, I’m not sure what I experienced in the 3 girls I have dated in my life. But I do know all three share heavy traits of Cluster B Personality.
But in reality, it’s not about what’s wrong with them. It’s about what’s wrong with me. And, at times, I would become abusive myself. Why did I allow the abuse and partake in years of it?
My experiences
Looking back on my relationships, I always pointed fingers at what “they” were doing to me. One thing I never did was point a finger back at myself. I get it; I’m no walk in the park to date at times. When I was married, I will be the first to admit “now” that I wasn’t the best husband I could be. I was a good husband, but nowhere near what I would be today.
Being codependent and suffering from CPTSD since childhood, I had no idea what my issues were or why I was attracting what I was. All I knew was the girls I dated, and one I married could be cold as cat shit towards me. And…
