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The Delusion You Are Led to Believe When Dating a Narcissists
It’s a connection that feels so real, but so wrong at the same time.
The night I met my ex, it felt intoxicating and dysfunctional at the same time. She had an innocence to her, but a very dark hidden side too that was more alluring than the physical attraction itself. Maybe it was the awareness I developed after my previous relationship before dating my ex.
She stood at 5'3 and weighed 100lbs. Her hug felt electric that night, as did our first kiss as we stood in the parking lot of a pub on a crisp November night.
In preparation of our first meeting
I had just moved back from Las Vegas, where I moved to take time for myself as I worked through a previous dysfunctional relationship. My initial plan was to stay there for a few months and see how it went. In my short 4 months there, I met many people on the same path as me. We had all met in a local Co-dependent anonymous(CODA) in central Las Vegas.
Upon my return, when I moved back, I posted a message on Facebook asking if anyone wanted to run the upcoming Thanksgiving race in Cincinnati, Ohio. My ex, who we will call Chip, to make it easier, was the first to reply. Chip was the first the first person to check on me when…
