The Key to a Healthy Relationship is Simple, But is it?
They appear to be, until you find yourself on the wrong end of the “deal.”
I’ve had four relationships in my 49 years of life. And all have been an utter failure, but I didn’t walk away without some lessons.
Don’t go into a relationship looking to escape yourself, and solely hoping to heal through this person. Don’t get me wrong. Relationships can be very healing with the right person, but finding the “right” one is the real challenge.
Be upfront with all your fucking baggage
Don’t go in candy coating shit, leaving “major” things under the table. Don’t rush sex, don’t rush feelings, and don’t rush the commitment. Let it develop.
And don’t come in blaming a “narcissistic” ex, and all your other abusive partners. There are major red flags in the “blame game” and those who also take too much accountability. There is a find balance between blame and accountability. Too much of either can be damaging to a new partnership.
Lay all your “fuckedupness” on the table almost out of the gate. Don’t let someone get attached to you then you drop a Hail Mary on their that hits them by surprise.
