The Most Dangerous Narcissist You Could Encounter

The covert/vulnerable/fragile Narcissist, hands down.

Chris Freyler
2 min readNov 2, 2022


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These individuals’ “elation” and “deflation” stages make them the most dangerous.

When they are in the deflation stage, they appear like vulnerable, hurt, abused puppies. You will want to pick them up, take their pain away, hold them, nurture them and love them.

When they are in the elation stage, they act like their counterpart, the Overt Narcissists. But unlike the Overt, they don’t have the power and “confidence” they possess.

The covert is in a constant cycle of elation and deflation; it’s quite the roller coaster. They are in continuous search of supply as it comes and goes.

The emotional torture it takes on a partner can’t be explained. Every action they take is to elicit a response from those close to them. And the action is usually based on some selfish need or desire.

Just as quickly as they are saying they are the worst person and apologizing for mind fucking you, they flip right back to mind fucking you.

Their “fake” empathy is what makes them most dangerous. You will believe them, and as soon as you do, they throw another dagger, and with each dagger, the one proceeding hits a little deeper.

They do the most damage because it keeps you in the never-ending guessing game of “what are they?” Your self-doubt and possible self-blame will be off the charts as you try to help the person as you take their pain on as your own.

By the end, you will likely be a babbling mess, thinking you are the abuser, as they just discarded you and are in another relationship before you can pick your shattered soul up off the ground.

Who they are when they are mean is precisely who they are. The only problem is they are so believable in the vulnerable state.

The only way out is to finally believe your reality and truth and not theirs. No looking back, no questioning, and no closure. At least from them.

It has to come from you doing months or even years of self-work.

The day you accept what you thought “was” but “wasn’t” is the day you set yourself free.



Chris Freyler

Mistake Maker Extraordinaire .Writing from a place I don’t understand at times. I write to help myself, in return hope it helps you. Just another Quora guy.