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The Most Important Thing To Do When Recovering From Narcissist Abuse.
No contact is vital, but there is something far more important.
I just blocked for the 50th time, at least. I will finally do what I am told by others and multiple therapists! “You HAVE to stay NO CONTACT.”
Seems simple, right? If you have experienced the abuse from one of these monsters you will understand how difficult it is. There’s more to recovery than no contact. If your guilt doesn’t send you back, your rumination will. At least it did for me. I would replay every argument going back and forth with did I deserve it? Did I overreact?
I would get 2,3,4 weeks, even up to 6 weeks away from her. I have this shit! I got it this time!
But after more and more time, I forget all the mean shit she did. I forget all the manipulations, lies, cheating and emotional torture. It is nothing but a distant memory to me now.
I find it odd it doesn’t take long to start missing her. I only remember the good. I still find it hard to believe that there was good in the relationship. Was it real? I have no idea. Was it fake? I have no idea. If it was, she’s a damn good actor. I think at times a Narcissist can love you, or even worship you, until they split. A Narcissist will see you as all good, or all bad and nothing in between.
