The Mystery Behind “Caring What People Think”

The chase for acceptance is a real problem in society.

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I think it’s a bad thing if everyone actually likes you. What that means is you are one “people pleasing” son-of-a-bitch.

That used to be me, and still can be at times.

I wanted everyone to like me. And I went out of my way to make sure they did. Even if that meant agreeing with shit that went against my morals, character, and beliefs.

I didn’t care. I couldn’t take someone “not” liking me.

I’m getting better with people not liking me. I’m not for everyone, and I’m OK with that. Those who do like me were meant to be in my life.

I grew up a major “people pleaser”. I didn’t know how things made “me” feel, I only knew how others felt about what I did, or didn’t do. I became a master at reading people.

There wasn’t much of anything I did for myself. If I enjoyed something, but got negative feedback, I no longer enjoyed it. I was the perfect chameleon to any situation. I could adapt quickly, and without much notice.

But yea, it’s impossible to have everyone dislike you, but I guess it’s the same if everyone does. It’s a “Catch 22” where you need to find the balance. And when you find the balance, be…