The Mystery of “Real” Love, After Narcissists Abuse

Many think they find it, but later find out abuse can resemble love if you don’t know what it is.

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There is a huge misconception of what love is. Love isn’t settling , controlling, abusive, changing, transactional, unconditional, etc…

Yea, I said unconditional. There are plenty of conditions on love, as there should be. It’s when you start thinking love is unconditional is what sets many up for years of abuse, no boundaries and settling.

I believe “real” love is much more than saying blaming it on people who “don’t” love themselves. Tthey don’t know how to love in general, not just themselves.

Many know in the beginning of relationships what make a person happy. But what makes them happy in the beginning, changes, we aren’t who we are in the beginning of any relationship very long.

Everyone wears a “mask” in a sense. And it takes some time to let that mask slide a little, before it complete falls off, and “life” happens.

People have no idea what love is. But by the end of all their relationships they know what it’s “not.”

So they spend the rest of their life trying to find what they know they don’t want, but attract.