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The Narcissist is Gone; What’s Next?
Welcome to your personal hell. This is where the fun begins.
You will experience severe withdrawal, it’s a withdrawal that is similar to withdrawing from benzos. Your brain has created a chemical addiction to the ups and downs. You will feel like death is a better option at times.
Sure, breakups can be challenging, but this one takes the cake!
You will try your damndest to move on, but you’ve never experienced a bond like this with any other relationship. You can not and will not get them off your mind.
All the “great” times will trump the bad. The cognitive dissonance will run your mind in circles as a dog chases his tail. You will flip from loving to hating them 1000x over in your mind in minutes.
You will question if they were a narcissist? You will always wonder if you didn’t try hard enough, as they said.
“Maybe you should have been more understanding?”
God, you love this person; why can’t they just see how good you are to them?
You will fight an uphill battle that feels impossible to trek. It’s easier to chase them and hope they return to your life. Dealing with the abuse is much easier than dealing with the pain of missing them.
